Some women will tell you they are bored if nothing is happening, which relates to being privy to mess being created and available for enjoyment. These same women seek out or create drama to keep things interesting. Some of the same women lie to themselves, trying to come off as upstanding, decent, dignified, classy, mature, saved, or Christian when the rumor or mess started with them. While perfection is not the point, one can shed a lot of unnecessary baggage if only they could acknowledge and seek to change their behavior.

I never could quite understand the machinations of women who easily seek to destroy other women. I’ve struggled my entire adulthood with understanding or offering grace to women who partake in the foolery. Again, while perfection is not the goal, detrimental behavior that is destructive of another woman is a hard no for me. I would rather care for a pet snake than walk amongst women who tear other women down. When good women wake up and refuse to be part of character assassinations, drama, or mess, I believe opportunities to help themselves and other women grow can be maximized.

But I’d be lying if I told you it is possible. The fascination with evil, wickedness, and abusive power, or misuse of personal power, is far too great, and good women don’t appear to like working in packs like a woman who keeps up so much shit does. It’s like goodness can only be achieved alone, and we must stay in this bubble and stay quiet so the so-called mean women won’t attack us. I call bullshit. Fuck a mean girl/women mentality—seriously. Mean women have low self-esteem and need to work on that and stop running in packs and wreaking havoc because they are unhappy. Get your life, sis, and work on some goals to be and do better. Read a book. Learn about yourself. Stop engaging in every negative activity that denigrates or destroys another woman. And let’s be VERY clear, I do not fear you whether you are out in the open with your bullshit or hiding behind systems and infrastructures to fuck shit up. You are only open in a group and behind for a reason. Bring it. You will deplete yourself and any reserves before I even pray, meditate, stretch, and engage in a conversation. But if you know THAT many women, who will replenish your reserve to continue keeping up shit, my point has been made. I said what I said.

To the good women, who know better, strive to be and do better, stop being a punk! This shit gets better when we hold them accountable. Call out their tendencies to be spiteful to other women because of their lack of self-love.