Woman’s Intuition: When It's Wrong​

Being wrong isn’t always comfortable. Some folks can handle it better than others. Learning from mistakes or errors is an opportunity to reflect. Reflection can create growth. When a woman’s intuition is off or incorrect, canvasing her landscape of womanhood, values, and beliefs can uncover uncomfortable truths.

Some intuition and hints of labeling based on hunches and a woman’s intuition are wrapped in stereotypes, unfair judgment, and lies. If your natural disposition is believing certain groups, genders, or races behave a certain way, how can you trust your intuition? If you accept that some individuals can be viewed as victims while others have a high threshold for pain or aren’t seen as worthy of compassion, how can you trust your intuition? How can you trust your intuition if you see some women as mean? Cold, calculating, and untrustworthy? There is some dissonance that we don’t acknowledge. The reality is created based on a perception that is loaded with stereotypes.

How do you experience intuition if you hate or are biased towards individuals? For example, if a black woman is constantly viewed as mean, angry, and a bully or braggart, could you ever experience her or feel her as compassionate, honest, or kind? Truthfully? If a strikingly gorgeous woman is viewed as stuck up, a gold digger, not intelligent, because God forbid, she is pretty and smart, how do you trust your intuition telling you that she is humble? Safe? And if this same woman has worked her way up the corporate ladder without being married to a man, can she be treated with the same amount of respect as a male counterpart married to a woman? What would your intuition tell you about her? 

The story is women have this sixth sense—intuition. I’m not doubting this. I think some women are more intuitive than others. Some women possess a spiritual gift of discernment. Also, I believe some zodiac signs are more intuitive than other women, such as Cancers, Pisces, Scorpios, and Aquarius. But each zodiac sign isn’t as dependable, so can we trust her “intuition”? Racist Scorpio? Detached Aquarius? Moody Cancer? Overzealous Pisces?  Wouldn’t their intuition be skewed? These, of course, are just examples and not judgments. Or are they?

Our woman’s intuition can be wrong. If we have biases and are inclined to be judgmental of some while ignoring the obvious unflattering traits of others, we risk false conclusions, believing liars, and staying stuck. And it also jeopardizes relationship-building and how we can safely intersect. The remedy is letting go of stereotypes. They get in the way. We mistakenly arrive in environments amongst decent individuals and wrongly condemn them based on faulty intuition. Is it intuition if it’s wrong?  Judgment seems more appropriate.

One benefit of being a therapist is experiencing our clients without judgment, biases, or stereotypes. I learned that this is a practice I can use within my circles. My friends and professional circles. For the most part, it’s been a good experience. Looking back, giving people the benefit of the doubt was a choice. Most were precisely who I experienced intuitively. They were spot-on toxicity. In other words, even when we remove our judgment, people will always show you who they are. Without going into situations with preconceived ideas and being saddled with a backpack of judgment, I experienced people fully. Whatever unfolded was going to, no matter what. I trust my intuition now more than ever because I no longer bother to include my shit when experiencing women. 

Maybe I’m wrong, but intuition should be experienced from a clean or clear slate. Frequent cleansings, removal of dead or stagnant energy by meditation, spiritual baths, and spending time alone can help you feel authentic energy or be more tuned into others. Eliminating toxic traits like forms of hatred can help you experience people more evenly. 

See the color of someone without ascribing certain behaviors to certain races. Look at gender openly without assigning societal expectations. Listen without needing to respond and hear people. Talk to people and ask questions instead of assuming. Allow experiences with someone to be, and do not generalize someone or your experience with them, selling it to whoever will listen. Experience others with grace. Adjust relationships and access as things are revealed.