Competition Should Be Self-care

Have you looked in the mirror and challenged yourself to do better? Decide to find a way to improve. Have you had that self-talk session about your flaws? And not necessarily remove those flaws; being able to sit with what you cannot change but accept? It takes courage to do that. Let’s face it: some of us are frauds. Our social media pages do not reflect what is happening in our lives. Some of us are unhappy. Some of us are not satisfied with our lovers. Some of us are miserable because we do not have a lover of our own. Some of us do not have a voice in our homes. Yet we will send tweet after tweet and post after post, in dissertation prose, trying to tell another woman how she ought to live, be, or exist. Why not shift the focus to yourself? Create the life you want not by dividing others, diminishing others, or competing with others but by fixing yourself and your situation!

It would be wonderfully and pleasantly exciting if women felt safe enough to examine all their parts and they felt brave enough to work on them.

Trying to live through reality television by mimicking bad behavior, copying celebrity lifestyles (that may be unaffordable) to show we are better than others, or inflicting pain and using it to damage another woman should not be measured as success, achieving goals, or to feel better about ourselves. For some women, the cards are stacked against them. To choose this woman as your mark can mean your center needs centering. You are off balance and in need of realignment. 

We are not animals. We do not have to hunt other women for survival or to be deemed the best. We are not ants nor bees who cater to one to save all. We are energy. We are human. We are love. When women start with themselves in love and competition, we can magnanimously then compete with others. We become a force and are capable of shifting society and the future.