10 QUESTIONS WITH ERICKA SMART, CEO ERICKA SMART HAIR
I met Ericka when she was a junior at W.W. Samuell High School, in the Plesant Grove area. She was quiet, but quickly I noticed there was this quiet strength and that she would do amazing things in life. I also noticed that she was raised by a family that deeply loved and protected her. There was something familiar there.
God saw fit to choose me as her basketball coach. During that year, she showed resilience, presence, and a basketball IQ that most didn’t notice. But it was always there.
I’ve watched her grow further into an amazing woman, wife, mother, and friend. She still addresses me as “Coach,” and we still laugh hysterically during times when it is needed most. One thing is for sure: we have come full circle on our respective journeys of healing.
1. What’s your definition of healing and making amends in a sisterhood?
Healing in a sisterhood involves resolving emotional wounds and fostering a supportive environment. I try to remember I’m healing from a trigger that was caused intentionally or unintentionally. While making amends entails taking responsibility for past actions, apologizing, and working to rebuild trust and understanding.
2. Has your definition changed over time? Is it the
same as when you were younger?
Yes, as I’ve matured… my thought process has changed. Once I had
my first child, my mindset pivoted. I’m now capable of processing others
feeling and emotions. I’ve learned, most of us are just doing the best we can.
Even if our best is a tad bit better than what we experienced as a child.
I mean let’s face it, we’re all healing from something… Right?
3. What is one sisterhood rule that you wished you knew as a younger Ericka Smart about women and friendships?
Having an open and honest communication would be the main one! As a child open communication meant you were “talking back”, “being grown, or “not staying in a child’s place.” But now I understand it’s the most important rule ever.
4. Have you ever had to heal from a friendship or sisterly relationship? What was that like for you?
Yes, it was difficult. It was like grieving a loss. Honestly I went through all the emotions. I did a bit of reflecting, set my boundaries and even focused on self-care. I try my best efforts to listen and sympathize with my fellow sisters. Mommy mode is 24/7 so I’m constantly wondering… “How would I want my children to deal with this particular situation?” I was hurt, but this person isn’t responsible for my unexpected expectations of a friend
5. Do you think healing and making amends is crucial for women? How so?
ABSOLUTELY, we already have the world on our backs. We can achieve so much more. Emotional growth, personal growth with self discovery. Dealing with everyday cultural challenges can be stressful for all of us. The end goal is a fulfilling and balanced life.
6. Was there a person, idea, or belief system that influenced you when you think of healing and making amends?
My grandmother would tell me as a kid, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” I realized some individuals didn’t care about being mistreated, so unfortunately that rule doesn’t apply with everyone. One of my friends told me to close my eyes, then think back to my first memory of being anxious or abandoned. Now, go back to that little girl, grab her hand and tell her… “it’s okay Ericka, you can come with me now. I’ll take care of you.” This has truly helped with my healing journey. I’ve had that little girl with me throughout my career, college experience and even childbirth. Only problem is, she’s also there during the tough times as well. So this idea probably works only during certain circumstances. Journaling also helps, I have so many of those. All throughout my home, there is a journal handy for my triggers! Even customized with my name and Bible scriptures.
7. What’s one of your expectations in your relationships with women now?
Narrowing it down to one is hard. But I would say prioritizing open communication, mutual respect, and support are the main qualities. It’s important to recognize that expectations in relationships can vary widely from person to person and are influenced by individual values, experiences, but most importantly cultural backgrounds.
8. As an entrepreneur, do any red flags present as you navigate relationships with women?
It's important to be mindful of potential biases or discriminatory behaviors that could negatively impact my interactions with women in professional settings. This includes being aware of any conscious or unconscious biases that may affect how I engage with women in the hair industry. At the end of the day, the goal is to create a productive work culture. I prioritize fairness, respect, and equal opportunities for all team members and business partners and it comes to the Ericka Smart Brand.
9. What’s your go-to ritual for healing and making amends? Do you believe in making amends?
Hmmm, well sometimes making an amends is great. But most times I result to meditation, journaling and spending time with nature. These particular practices help me process my emotions and gain some sort of clarity. I also get my prayer together in efforts to have my words align with Gods words. To promote effective communication when it’s time to amend.
10. What’s something you think professional women need to know about healing and making amends in sisterhood?
The power of empathy and understanding. Building and maintaining strong relationships with other women in professional settings can be incredibly rewarding, but conflicts and misunderstandings are bound to arise from time to time. When these conflicts occur, it’s crucial for women to approach the situation with empathy and a willingness to understand the perspectives and experiences of their colleagues. As I said before, we’re all healing from something.
-Thank you all so much for allowing me to share. This process has resurfaced some situations I need to revisit. I hope my words help another sister during her healing journey. Much love, Ericka Smart.
You can catch Ericka for a pre-taped interview on WFAA January 2nd 9AM
